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My Areas of Expertise
EFT, NLP, Energy Medicine and Talk Therapy in one
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As an EFT therapist, I would love to try to help you overcome emotional pain and negative behaviour patterns that were created in your past, and influence your present and future choices.

 

I wish for you to learn techniques that will allow you to understand your emotions, why you react the way you do, to neutralise the negative impact it has on you and to deal with it, so you become free of its influence on you, and you don't need me anymore.

My Areas of Expertise

Who I aim to work with:

-- maybe you feel that you have never been loved, that you have not experienced warmth and safety from your parents or partners, but are still full of hope, love and compassion, especially for others, maybe not as much for yourself,

-- the feeling of powerlessness and hopelessness is familiar and present in your adult life. Maybe you find yourself in situations where you think "It doesn't matter what I do, it's still the same" or "It's not fair!", you often feel disappointed by people and their behaviour towards you,

 

-- you are a sensitive and a fragile person, that have experienced so much emotional pain that it could fill the whole universe. Maybe you are still kind and compassionate towards others... Simply because you don't want others to ever feel this heart--tearing pain you have experienced in your childhood. Or maybe you've passed that threshold already...

My area of work:

-- adult children of borderline parents:

-- growing up in an environment of sudden outburst of anger, frustration, emotional instability: caretaker showed a mix of behaviours like aggression -- silence -- aggression -- happiness -- aggression -- sleep, and repeat,

-- love you/love you not -- emotional swing of the caretaker,

-- ticking bombs: never knowing if the person is going to explode with anger and take it out on you or make you pancakes and give cookies,

-- emotional immaturity and reversed roles: children that had to grow up into the role of a parent to their parents, and the parents needed to be taken care of, as if they were the children,

-- emotional manipulation -- you feel that certain people, especially those you're romantically involved with, and those who you're close to (mum, dad, siblings) use your love for them against you, for their own personal gain,

– toxic relationships, draining you of your energy, leaving you disappointed and emotionally burned out; you leave them just to start another, just alike the previous one; you feel that you allow others for certain behaviours or situation towards you that cause you emotional or physical pain, and it's because you just want to make them happy, and you just want to be loved,

-- unhappy relationships -- you try to love them, to heal them, to make them happy, if they only allowed you to make them happy, love them and love you back you'd create for them the best relationship ever,

feeling of lack of love in your childhood or adult life, feeling of not belonging, fear of conflicts,

sexual assault, bulling, discrimination

helplessness, powerlessness towards people and situations,

disappointment towards people, love, doubt you’ll ever find love,

-- financial instability -- money are never there, they disappear as soon as they appear, the feeling of "I can't afford" is well to known to you.

"We are Loveand Love is all there is"- Sue Beer"Healing the addicted heart".

Why do I choose to work in these areas?

-- I have personal experience in living and overcoming these situations.

-- I know how it feels to be trapped in a situation without seeing a way out,

-- Repeating a negative behaviour (that you're not even aware of),

-- I know how it is to hear "It is you", believing it and blaming yourself for others' unhappiness,

-- I know how it feels to try to fix others and try to make them happy... and how they abuse it...

-- I know how a situation can feel normal as that's how it's always been, since you remember,

-- I know relationships that make you ache to the point of complete and utter emotional burn out... you end one just so you can start another one that leaves you as pumped-out as the previous one,

-- The feeling of not belonging, being different... 

-- The feeling of being refused something due to your status (e.g. marital, social, background, origin, childless/parents).

-- I know how much energy, and time, and self-work, and self-change, and courage it demands and how tiring it can be... and this questions in your head: "Will I ever get better? Will I ever get rid of it all? How much longer?"

-- I know it is possible to heal if you want to do it.

EFT and NLP

During my sessions, I use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). EFT is a form of energy medicine that involves tapping on specific points on the body to release negative emotions and beliefs. NLP is a technique that helps you reprogram your thoughts and language patterns so you stop repeating the same old mistakes. You learn to see what was unseeable before: that there's a different way to live your life.

During our sessions, we tap a lot 😉. It facilitates the flow of the thoughts, reduce the emotional load and allows the subconscious mind to connect the dots between different situations. So we can reach the core issue and see the negative pattern, that you've been repeating.

 

Let me rephrase a quote from Ted Hughes's book "The Iron Man", "You are who you choose to be", and write YOU HAVE A CHOICE TO BECOME WHO YOU CHOOSE TO BE, WHO YOUR HEART HAS ALWAYS WANTED YOU TO BE.

Talk Therapy

During our talks I keep an eye contact with you. I tune into your voice and intonation. All this allows me to observe any non-verbal reactions and emotions that are controlled by your subconscious and stored deep inside your body. So that your body helps me to help you.

Integrated Energy Techniques IET

In addition to EFT, I also offer other forms of energy medicine, like IET. It is a form of energy healing modality that aim to clear physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual blockages in the body and mind.

Pretty words aside: I combine both EFT and NLP to create the best possible aid that would bring peace and healing.

It means that no session is the same and no method is the same for each individual. In my opinion, this creates the most individually adjusted tool that a therapist can use with a client.

My experience with the "traditional" therapy.

I have sought help with so called "traditional" therapy: psychologists. I have worked with 3 psychologists and 1 welfare officer and I met with:

- Ignorance and unconcern,

- Noncomprehension and inability to tune into me,

- Making me feel that their notebook was more interesting than me, as they kept staring at it instead of looking at me,

- Interruptions during sessions, such as answering text messages from other clients and fixing prescriptions,

- Looking at me as if they felt pity for me

- Gasping and making comments "Oh My God...", "I feel sorry for you" and "I cannot help you, this is too difficult" using tone that seemed close to tears.

And the worst of all:

- Making me engage with an intensive emotion, memory, or thought as soon as the session started, only to leave me all on my own with it after 45 minutes, highly emotional... so every week I'd enter a traumatic feeling that would cause my body to shake. I'd be left alone to deal with and calm myself down, only to forget about it during the week (in order to function normally), just to take it up again... and so it was, every week, every session...

- I was not taught any methods on how to work on issues myself between the sessions or how to deal with minor, stressful, and/or irritating situation. 

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"If it's hysterical,it's historical"

Why EFT and NLP?

I am going to describe here shortly why I choose to work using EFT and NLP as I'd like to include the whole story in the section "My story".

The reason why I have decided to work with Emotional Freedom Techniques and Neuro-Linguistic Programming is because I have used them both as self-applied methods and with a certified EFT Practitioner, for many years now, to heal my own emotional wounds from the past.

I tried yoga and I tried meditation. I tried breathing. I liked it but It helped me only with the symptoms. The symptoms were coming back again and again...

 

The symptoms are a way for the body and subconscious mind to tell you that there's an issue that has deeper roots. I needed to get to the bottom of issues to stop the symptoms.

 

I was also supposed to feel grounded after the classes, but that expression was as unknown to me as calculation of go/no-go reentry point for Friendship 7 😆. What does it mean to feel grounded?

 

Our brain and body registers an emotionally loaded issue and encodes it in our amygdala and hippocampus. Whenever our subconscious finds a situation similar to the remembered one, it fires up all the red lights, rockets and sirens it has - physical reactions. It's like driving a car: you automatically scan the road and environment for any speeding/breaking cars, kids or pets running out on the road, derbies, holes in the road, sings - anything that could cause you act promptly to avoid a danger.

EFT has helped me to stop that scanning for my negative past experiences (trauma) in my environment (not for the danger when I'm driving 😉).

Those things eased up some of the symptoms I had but none of them helped me heal my emotions and body, like EFT has done:

  • It has helped me to reduce and eliminate negative emotions associated with my past, my memories, my family, my unmet needs of love, and safety, and belonging (see the point below about emotions to understand it better),

  • Don't misunderstand, I did cry and I did feel anger and sadness during the sessions but at the end of the tapping I was calm and I didn't feel left alone (vs. the traditional therapy where I would just feel frustration and the need to understand, the constant "why" in my head, + my whole body would shake),

  • It allowed me to access the buried emotions, that I didn't know I had (at some point in my life, anger was covered up by disappointment, sadness and resignation, numbness even),

  • I stopped having physical reactions like:

- digestion problems,

- my abdominal shaking like crazy in a stressful situation,

- one of my fingers stopped having open wounds,

- pain in the low back, pain in the neck, some shoulder pain (still working on those), pain in my right piriformis muscle,

- itchiness and dandruff of my scalp.

  • I learned how to deal with stressful situations,

  • I learned to listen to my body, to my gut feeling - that's being grounded (!)

  • I learned to understand my emotions - they are there to tell me something about a person, situation, myself - again, being grounded (!)

  • I learned to accept my emotions for what they are without the nonsense of that I shouldn't feel this or that - grounded (!)

  • and because of the things above I am able to analyse why I have these "negative" emotions, tap on them and come to the core issue of what triggers them so I can let them go, so I can deactivate the "red buttons" that were installed by my family and the negative surrounding, that I have been carrying with me since childhood - this is the most important skill I have learned! 

  • I wasn't left alone, high on emotions, when finishing my therapy sessions with an EFT Practitioner. 

If used properly by a compassionate therapist, who has worked through their own trauma, EFT and NLP are great tools to help a person.

 

I would love others to have the chance to heal their emotional wounds and body, and to gain the knowledge how to deal with any possible future issues.

And these are the reason to why I have chosen to work using EFT and NLP.

I still do yoga and breathing as I simply like it. I do kind of a meditation - I enhance it with tapping at the same time.

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Why EFT and NLP?
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